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How to do Sexual Role Play: The BasicsSexual Role Play Basics

Imagine harboring sexual fantasies for years and never given a chance to express them with a lover or even talk about them? Let’s face it we all have sexual fantasies and they can range from mild to wild. Unfortunately many people still believe that any sex outside of procreation is wrong and taboo. Isn’t interesting how drawn we are to sexual taboos? The greatest gift you can give your partner is to become fantastic lovers. Lovers thrive on giving pleasure to one another. Sexual role play takes sex to a new level by involving the mind, body and spirit.

Now Let’s go a Little Deeper

I feel that many people, especially men, harbor deep sexual fantasies. They use these mental images and sometimes props or sex toys to masturbate or, unfortunately, step outside a loving relationship to explore with someone else. So in addition to feeling guilty about the fantasy, he/she now feels deep remorse over infidelity. Many couples get married, have successful families, careers, and someone in the relationship could very well be in the closet about their true sexual desires. The truth is, when men get stressed out and depressed, they will often escape into their sexual fantasies. It might be a hot masturbation session where he is thumbing through a magazine or watching pornography depicting his sexual fantasies or fetishes. Or he could be using phone sex, which isn’t a bad idea at all, because he’s not out finding a mistress or another woman to explore his sexual desires. It’s easy to get addicted to something that offers you comfort and release during difficult times.

Wouldn’t it be better to bring these needs into your relationship and use them constructively to enhance the love you already have? But there are situations where this might not ever be possible, and I suggest you hire a phone sex professional to help you explore your fantasies safely. If you’re ready to light a serious fire in your lovemaking, then please keep reading.

Talk About It

Communication is easier said than done. In fact, it’s always the advice given for almost any situation because it’s true. Without good communication, you’ll struggle. If you are a couple that finds it difficult to talk about sex, then you should correct this before engaging in sexual role play. It is essential that everyone is clear on what to expect and to respect boundaries. So we will continue with the assumption that all parties involved can easily communicate with each other, and there are no hidden agendas. It’s okay to write your fantasies down on paper, however it’s best to type out a simple structure with all of the elements that makes your fantasy hot. If you write a detailed script it doesn’t allow for someone else involved adding their own elements and making it hot for both of you, right? When starting out keep it simple. You don’t want to overwhelm your lover.

So let’s say you have a receptive lover and they’ve agreed to try new things to spice up your love life. We’ll use a light cross-dressing fantasy as an example. You’re a man who has fantasized about exploring your feminine side. Perhaps you’ve already been wearing panties and masturbating. Perhaps you’ll introduce this to your woman like this:

Honey I want to be your lesbian lover. I’ll dress up in women’s lingerie, and we’ll make love as two women.”

Now she may have questions and expect you to elaborate but keep it simple. I’ve found that by keeping it simple it can open the door for her own ideas, and she just might surprise you! Dress up, embrace and let her lead as best she can. Don’t be critical and judge. Just let the first time be an experiment. It’s okay to laugh and kid around. It’s supposed to be lighthearted and fun. As you become more comfortable, the intensity will increase. Again, keep it simple.

Perhaps your fantasy is more taboo such as wanting her to take control and be more dominant. I have found the easiest way to break into this type of sexual role play is to play a game where you become her slave for the day or weekend. Invite her to have you do “anything” such as pamper her, sexually service her or even mundane ordinary task. The first game is simple and a chance for her to discover her own sexual power.

A Beginning and End

The most important thing to establish is setting a time frame when this fantasy will take place. It should have a beginning and an end. Within that time frame the fantasy should be fully engaged. If you do this there will be no worries that it will change your already existing relationship. This seems to be the biggest fear in that it will alter how you relate on a day-to-day basis and affect the relationship you already have. Plan your fantasy within a time frame where you both have time and will not be interrupted by phones, children or other responsibilities. Use costumes and props to make it as real as possible.

The Mind is the most Important Implement

Some fantasies are not meant to be enacted. She might have an fantasy of being taken by a group of men, or he may fantasize about being forced to suck cock. These may be things that are hot in your head, but actually doing them becomes more complicated or unattainable. In this case props and sexy talking are important. During love making, you might suggest or simply talk about the fantasy. If the fantasy is about forcing him to suck cock, then she might strap on a dildo and order him to suck her cock while she verbally engages the fantasy by pretending she’s a man. In fantasy mode almost anything can happen if the stage is set, and you act out the sexual role play as if it were real.

Have Fun and Play

The most important thing in sexual role play is that you have fun. This isn’t a masturbation fantasy where you can close your eyes or look at porn pretending to put yourself into the scene. It is an interactive exchange where you “act” out sexual fantasies. Open a bottle of wine but don’t get drunk and let things get too carried away. Keep it light and simple. As time goes on you’ll both feel more comfortable and willing to entertain each other fantasies. You can’t be selfish or demanding. The fact that your lover agreed to explore your fantasies is exciting! Make it fun!

Making it HOT

You both should want and agree to at least explore fantasy role play. Work on it and keep working on it until you both are satisfied with the results. We have an excellent service here where you can call your fantasy consultant, talk or let her lead your sexual fantasy like a director in a movie. Your fantasy consultant can help you select props, set up a scene and carefully guide you through it. There is no reason to be jealous because this is what we do and our goal is to help YOU have the hottest sex EVER!

Phone sex doesn’t have to be just guided masturbation, although that is also really hot for couples. When first starting out with sexual role play, sometimes it’s nice to have a mediator to help you work through the details. Your fantasy consultant can also be a trusted confidant, someone you can talk to as you carefully work out the details.

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