Let’s Delve Into This

Improved Communications

Once a relationship does take hold, the sex is often fast and furious.  During this time, everything takes care of itself and you can’t keep your hands off of each other.  But, at some point you’ll be back where you were at the beginning: the tug-of-war.  For good or ill, men and women are just wired differently, so it’s important that they understand each other and how they’re motivated.

Avoiding Default

Too often, couples just revert to their default positions.  Not to point fingers, but it is a fact that some guys just suck at communicating.  But some women communicate too much, and all the time.  We need to be careful about that and not overwhelm the guys.

How Men Are Wired

At the heart of most sexual problems with couples is what happens after the magic wears off.  With exceptions, guys pretty much want sex all the time and most women do not.  That has nothing to do with women’s desire or sex drive but with the fact that once real life kicks in, and the early magic wears off, you have to work a bit harder to keep a relationship fresh and exciting.

Most guys tell me that they would be happy to do it anytime of day, for five minutes or an hour.  They just want to get with you in whatever way possible. That is how they are wired.

What Women Want

Women will, on occasion, find themselves in the mood and demand sex.  But most women want some romance before their man ravages them.   They want to know to know that it is her that you’re really interested in, and that you’re willing to take the time to provide her with what she needs.  That might be an evening of romantic lovemaking, hot and dirty sex, or couples kinky phone sex.

Yes, you can argue that men don’t require much motivation, being the primal beings they are, and that it is unbalanced.  That is just the way it is.  To be fair, there are plenty of guys who enjoy romance as much as women do.  And, ladies, just because your man may not be one of them does not make him a complete neanderthal.

Compromise

This is where compromise comes into play.  For guys, you need to understand where your woman is coming from.  Is she someone who likes a lot of romance or foreplay before getting hot and heavy?  Instead of getting impatient, enjoy it.  Take some time to do some lengthy ass or leg worship on her. It may not be your favorite thing, but if you’re willing to put aside your intense desire to get right to the dirty deed, you might find yourself enjoying it more than you thought.  If sex is the glue of any relationship, that kind of intimacy is the primary ingredient of that glue.  And if you really love her, you will be more than willing to give her what she needs.

Now it’s time to put all of this new information to use in your own relationship.  That is what I am here for.  Suggest a joint call with your lady and let her know that I am open to talking with couples, having enchantrix phone sex fun with you, in a non-threatening phone session.  It will be easy going and may make it easier for the two of you to discuss sensitive issues, and even branch out into new erotic directions.

Thoughts, opinions, comments?  I am open to hearing them.